Discovering the Mind of a Woman, Ken Nair
Our wives should experience God loving them through us.
Christlikeness is God’s first priority for every man.
In loving our wives as Christ loved the church and gave Himself for her, our wives will respond and give us our place as spiritual leaders, and give us bountiful love and support.
This book claims that if you institute the principles found within the book, it will:
- Give you genuine peace within the home.
- help you develop outstanding communication skills
- give you a much richer love life with your wife.
- produce more spiritually and emotionally balanced children.
- Promote better relationships in the workplace.
- give your children a better model for their own marriages later, and aid to avoid common pitfalls.
- Enable God to bless you because you truly died to yourself.
There are no shortcuts to Christlikeness.
Being Christlike is radically different from what is labeled “christian” today.
Being Christlike will require a radical new outlook entailed with a radical obedience.
The price to pay in order to discover the mind of a woman is to die to self and become Christlike.
Change comes slowly, at best, and for the best.
Nair claims that a woman’s skepticism is healthy and God-given, but I wonder.
God can use indeed a wife to reveal a man’s need for Christlikeness.
Expressing love to your wife like Christ loved the church is a winner everytime!
Their own stubbornness inhibits most men from understanding their wives.
Most men will agree that women are most mysterious.
Most men claim that the most sure thing about a woman is her fickleness.
A man cannot cause a woman to get her act together until he gets his act together spiritually.
Avoid the pitfall for settling for less than God’s best.
There is indeed a basic difference between how men and women think, but men often use the “just a mysterious woman” defense as a ploy to be lazy in their thinking.
The single most significant problem in the Christian community is that men have failed to exhibit Christlikeness and the leadership that Christ expects and requires of us.
The Bible clearly makes men accountable for their marriages, be it successful or not.
Men may actually be the key to marital disharmony.
There is a difference in someone asking for clarification and them trying to tell you what they thought.
If a person is to be judged wrong, let them convict themselves by their own words.
Adam not only blamed Eve, but also ended up pointing his finger at God Himself.
Nair claims that wives are part of God’s accountability group to make men more Christlike.—- but this beckons the question, “what about singles?”
When a man dethrones himself and enthrones God, there is a dramatic change indeed in the home.
For too long men have tried to rule their homes by words disconnected from their actions, which is futile.
Wives wil forgive almost anything as long as the man allows them into their hearts to be loved by them.
Nair claims that God will teach a man what real love is through their wife.— God is not fickle like women, I declare!
Men should be concerned with their wife and their children when they first walk through the door in the evening.
God considers it damaging when we are critical, selfish, questioning of her motives and style, complaining about the cooking, or negative towards your wife.
You may very well consider yourself to be king, but your subjects will not agree with you if you act selfishly, even if they may act like it.
Emotions are difficult for most men to register because they only occur momentarily in intervals.
Our lack of awareness for our emotional condition makes it downright impossible for us to understand how insensitive we may be to our wife.
A wife wants to be included in our everyday activities, and that involves a give and take exchange from the heart.
When two people are married, they are one; in oneness, the two halves cannot function appropriately when they are separate, as each requires the other for successful functioning.
In marriage, there must be oneness in discipling children.
Husbands are usually blind to their own faults, but keenly aware of their wife’s.
Few people realize that there is a fierce battle taking place within their minds.
The wife is a responder, so she will follow your lead.
Because of their mechanical orientation, most men approach relationships from a mechanical standpoint.
If a man will love his wife as Christ did the church, he must totally give himself for her betterment.
If Christ is cospirited with God, we must learn to be cospirited with our wife.
If Christ’s goal was oneness with God, our goal must be oneness with our wife.
If Christ’s goal was not promoting Himself, but God instead, so too should our goal be to promote our wife and not ourselves.
If God valued us high enough to die for us, we likewise should value our wife enough to cherish her life.
Keep the problems in amarriage from escalating to further conflict and compounding.
It is important to a woman that her husband not reject her in any way.
Women notice things that we men usually do not.
Having a sensitive spirit is essential to living a healthy Christian life and to be a good husband.
In order to read a woman, look at her eyes and faial expressions very carefully.
God hoolds men accountable for the success of their mariages.
Her frame of reference for who you are will determine her jealousy when you interact with other women.
Jealousy is a natural outgrowth of a woman’s insecurity.
When a woman negatively speaks to you or about you, invert the comments and identify the positive quality that the comment could represent, if you changed.
Nit picking is truly a demonstration of high standards.
Nagging is merley a motivational reminder.
Poitning out hypocrisy in you is her concern for your righteousness.
Most women visualize things pretaining to their relationships.
A woman tends to think that men visualize things just the way they do, but do so errantly.
Men usually do not watch for attitudes, but the mechanics of the situation instead.
Men must aid a wife in their spiritual needs, their emotional needs, and their physical needs.
There is a distinct corrollary between sensuality and spirituality, as either the flesh is in control, or the Spirit is in control, one of the two, but not both at once.
Men attempting to become spiritual leaders must not allow their sexual drives to control them.
Learn to control your sexual appetites.
In Gensis 3:16, the woman will “desire” a craving for value and acceptance of a man, says Nair, but I claim that she desires to rule over her husband and take the place of God.
Without increased spiritual care, women usually do not think about sex.
A woman needs a man to undewrstand her like Christ would, and that means even sexually.